Dating men who are uneducated
I grew up in a household where my mother was the breadwinner.My father is a self-employed contractor who often found himself sitting around at home when business was slow (and in the nineties, business was slow a ).Stay-at-home dads are asked if they are “in transition.” No one asks a man at a dinner party how his kids are doing in school. ” People are not okay with a man not having career ambitions, with a man not climbing the ladder. He works so he can be with me, so he can contribute to our family, so he can pay the vet bills. The man I love doesn’t define himself by his career; he defines himself by his relationships with those around them. Who is anyone to say that he must define himself in a certain way?
She warned me of the pain she experienced when leaving an infant at daycare for long hours because she needed to earn enough to support a family.We met at the electronics store we both worked at part-time while we were in school.Five years later, he still works there, now full-time.While we are part of a generation that has seen the economic prospects of women rise significantly, while we are part of a generation in which women are considered more equal to men than ever before, where womanhood is defined in more ways than ever before, my fiancé is still only defined by one thing: his job. After years of my mother’s voice warning me not to marry someone with stagnant economic opportunities, I too have asked my fiancé what he really wants to do with his life, what career would satisfy him.No one assigns any value to his other contributions—his relationships, his marriage, his family—because effort in those areas by men is not validated. Because in my mind, no one really wants to work in a warehouse. There isn’t really any job that would fulfill him, because the things that fulfill him are at home, not at work.