Dating a cop
He helped me to get a thicker skin, while I have helped him to learn how to be more diplomatic.
If you appreciate your partner's differences without seeing them as areas to be changed, but hopefully a way that will provide balance in a needed area, proceed with the relationship. interdependent A common mistake many first responders make is dating and then marrying the person who needs to be rescued.
If you feel this person has a life they do not want to include you in and you've talked to them a couple of times about what you need, but are still met with resistance, get the clue that you are more into them than they are into you. The goal of a healthy functional relationship is interdependence where two people can have separate interests and hobbies, yet when they come together their life fits together.
Sit back once in awhile and evaluate who they are and whether or not they meet your criteria as a lifelong partner and remember it takes two years to get to know someone.
Authenticity Do you feel accepted and liked for who you are or do you get the feeling your relationship partner is giving you pointers of who you should be?
Otherwise, cut bait if you experience the differences as negative traits that cannot be overlooked or tolerated. They come to you already broken and you feel needed by helping to put this person back together. You cannot fix this person and they will always be needy, dependent, and clingy.
They will also begin to resent you when you are not able to take care of their perceived emotional needs or crisis they have created.