Biblical boundaries for dating
When you become a Christian the Holy Spirit becomes indwelled inside of you.
Because of this, when you sin sexually – you sin against God’s temple. “The body is not meant for sexual immorality, but for the Lord, and the Lord for the body.
After we had messed up, I told him that we needed to set boundaries. In the book of Solomon, Solomon’s wife describes their relationship, “His left hand is under my head, and his right hand embraces me! It is never too late to have a talk about boundaries or change your boundaries. If you are walking with God, living by the power of the Holy Spirit, and working through all the questions above, I believe you will know if you and your boyfriend can hug and cuddle and to what extent.
We could have avoided this confusion if we would have set boundaries day one. In high school, I could have made out with a stranger and not felt guilty. I know he loved God, but I don’t think his desire to pursue purity was as big as my desire. I tried to give him opportunities to set boundaries. I adjure you, O daughters of Jerusalem, by the gazelles of the field, that you not stir up or awaken love until it pleases.” (Solomon 2:6-7). If the Holy Spirit is convicting you about something, you have to listen. Remember, pleasing God is way more important that pleasing your flesh.
I know kissing involves two people, but he didn’t seem to care about protecting my heart or having physical boundaries.
Maybe it’s a cheeseburger instead of another tofu salad, or some alone time in place of another party. Even extroverts need time alone so they can recharge.
Scientists say that dreams are the brain’s way of filing away memories and thoughts, but you need to do this when you’re awake, too.
Without these things, we lose ourselves and become fueled by other people.
No God-chaser should want to work only for the happiness of other people – that’s a goal that turns into a dead-end in no time.