All balck dating
Surely, I could mold a potential mate into the guy I wanted, right?
We could get into couple’s therapy and the whole nine.
Various factors played into this phenomenon which has yet to be identified in any other ethnic group.
One being the crack epidemic of the ’80s that shifted many households from dual to single, another being the mass incarceration epidemic that followed shortly thereafter.
I haven’t dated an American in more than six years.
That says less about American men and more about my dating preferences than anything else. My nationality, however, is a whole different story but this wasn’t always the case.
I was expecting the men I was dating to mimic a culture and generation that they had no real relation to.
We have this idea that we’re born marriage-ready while men must go through some reformative period in their lives where they come to the realization that marriage ain’t such a bad idea.If I wanted to make it work despite what the evidence stated, I could.And I wasn’t wrong, but marriage is challenging enough without marrying a project.And as we reviewed my list, one thing became clear, and that was that I had no business dating Black American men.The likelihood that we would waste each other’s time was almost built into the equation. Almost like I was turning my back on them if I agreed with these findings.